You’ve probably heard all about women needing to love themselves, but how often do men actually take time to reflect, practise self-care, and love themselves?
There is still a huge stigma attached to men showing their emotions, but it’s important to remember that you are loved, deserve to be loved, and treated with respect.
It is perfectly okay to show emotion, to cry, to talk to someone, and reach out for help, it is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it is a sign of bravery and courage.
When working on yourself physically, it is extremely important to look after yourself mentally as well. Make sure you’re changing for yourself, and not anyone else!
Some days will be worse than others, whether physically or mentally, but those days are the ones that push you further and should be used to spur you on. You can’t have growth without failure.
If you are struggling physically or mentally, it’s important to reach out to someone you trust. If you are training at the gym, personal trainers are great to invest in if you need that extra push and reassurance.
Take time to reflect and relax.
Take yourself for coffee, write down your thoughts and feelings in a diary. Keep track of what is going well, what’s not going so well, and what you need to change in your life to improve for yourself even more.
Self-care nights are key for your mindset. Run yourself a hot bath (it also helps to soak your muscles after a workout), do a facemask, and put your favourite movie or music on.
Book yourself holidays and meals out with friends to give yourself something to look forward to. If you are really stressed, try booking a spa day. If you need a change of scenery, visit a new city or take a hike in the peak district.
When getting into the fitness industry, it’s extremely easy to get caught up in bad habits and thought processes.
Ask for help.
There is so much pressure around men having to know what to do when they join a gym. Whether it’s form, routine, or nutrition.
Everyone has to start somewhere, and it’s perfectly okay to ask another gym member or member of staff how to use a piece of equipment or for advice on the best training routines for you.
Asking for help at the gym is ultimately the only way you’re going to move forward, it only means you’re going to make progress moving further down the line.
It should never have to feel embarrassing to ask for advice whilst at the gym. If anyone ever judges you, it says more about them than it does you.
The only way you’re going to improve is by constantly learning, asking for advice from professionals, and asking questions!
You need to make yourself aware that everyone is on their own journey and everyone is at different stages.
Trust me when I say it doesn’t matter if you don’t look a certain way or if you feel that someone else is hitting their targets more than you.
When you’re working on yourself, no journey is as simple as going straight from A to B.
You will have days where you feel like the whole world is against you.
These are the days that are most important to look back on your progress, prove to yourself that you can do it, and use that to motivate yourself. These are also the days where practising self-love and care are most important!
I’m about to talk about the dreaded words that a lot of people hate
It is so easy to get caught up in other people’s lifestyles and compare them to yours or even your body image.
It’s easy to forget this, so I’m here to remind you that social media is not real. People only share 3% of their lives on these platforms because they only want to share with the world the best parts.
Most images and videos are edited, and people only show themselves when they are at their best.
You are important.
Make sure you are looking after your mental well-being as well as your physical one.
Your thoughts and opinions matter. No one expects to know everything all of the time and to be completely happy all the time. You are a human being with emotions. It is perfectly normal and okay to have days where you aren’t feeling so great!
Remember that no matter how tough life gets, you will always have someone around to help and support you.
Castle Gym is here to support you through your physical and mental journey.
Below are links to mental health charities and organisations you can reach out to if you are struggling.
No matter what anyone tells you or what you tell yourself, you matter.
Links to mental health charities/organisations:
MANUP? – https://www.manup.how/
CALM – https://www.thecalmzone.net/
Shout – https://giveusashout.org/